Reflection

This past weekend I went to a wedding... not my ideal event to attend. Unfortunately... I am far to cynical. Don't get me wrong... I pray that the vows I witnessed withstand the test of time.. that Lacey & David will continue to grow together and appreciate each other... With God's help and guidance, they can make it... only time will tell.

As I was listening to the vows.. I was thinking to myself how much I appreciate the OLD traditional vows.. to have and to hold.. to love and to honor... to obey.. for richer and poorer... this wedding did not contain that... but instead a short version not mentioning the specifics that the traditional vows did. I was disappointed by that... but then again... mine were tradition (so many years ago, with the exception of the obey part) and look where that got me.

Anyway... there were two "quotes" I heard during the evening (not from the bride or groom) which got me thinking...

1) "The more beautiful they are... the bitchier they are." I swear... if I had a mouthful of liquid in my mouth at that moment, it would have shot across the room. Keep in mind that one of the reasons I found this comment to be hysterical is the fact (that in my opinion), I am a far stretch from beautiful. I believe that one of the things I have learned in the last 12 years since my divorce is that even if a man may believe that to be true (that prettier girls are bitches), it doesn't make a difference. They will still endure a horrible relationship with a "gorgeous" girl instead of taking time to look past the outer shell. But then again... I have no desire to be with a man who is shallow enough to only care about the outside... But hearing a man (one whom I hold in high regard) say that just hit me silly.. I wanted to turn to him and say "Duh, Stupid".

2) "She knew that when I married her, now she expects me to change". WOW... this alone is deserving of its own blog... so I will spend the rest of my evening pondering... why would you marry someone with an expectation that you can get them to change??? Why marry someone that you aren't 100% certain that you can live with any preexisting quirks? How can someone marry someone with hopes of changing that person and not realize that the other partner may not be secretly thinking the same about them? Isn't hoping for that change after the vows a recipe for disaster??